The treatment center’s Most Improved Resident

Chandler and his good friend, Jalen.

Chandler and his good friend, Jalen.

“Congratulations and good luck when you go home.” That is how the speech introducing the Most Improved Resident award at Chandler’s treatment center ended at a very special Awards Banquet last night.

The banquet hall of the nicest hotel in town was packed, with everyone, including the kids, dressed to the nines. Besides the students, the audience was made up of staff, former staff, alumni of the program, major donors, and the Board of Directors of the 35-year-old treatment center.

There was a long list of awards that took an hour and a half to present, but the most prestigious was the last one — the Most Improved Resident award — the only one to receive a standing ovation, and the recipient of that award was none other than our son, Chandler.

“For a long time before coming to our program, you were lost” the staff member who was introducing Chandler went on, “lost in a world that was hard for you to fully understand, and struggling to make yourself understood to others. Much of our work with you early on was frustrating to you, and you often walked away seemingly annoyed. Your sadness worsened and your isolation increased. There were many times we were worried that we weren’t reaching you and we felt unable to truly speak to you.”

It has indeed been a long 10-month ordeal. As I watched Chandler beaming with pride, I couldn’t help but think of that dreadful night last summer when I watched from afar as my own son was wrenched from our home. The one safe place he could count on was not safe anymore.

“As time went on, your annoyance turned into anger, and your commitment kicked in. You worked with us to make yourself understood, and this distress transformed into a peacefulness we never thought possible. Finally, your true thoughts and feelings started to spill out, and we saw you again confident in your ability to tell us what you needed to. You confronted yourself, your choices and your parents. You told people what you needed, and many times we have been truly blown away by your insight and your awareness.”

Chandler has indeed blown us all away with the work he has accomplished in the last ten months, and you, as our Catch community, have been a big part of this, as you have prayed and cried with us, and watched us all grow stronger by facing into our weaknesses and failures. The theme for the night was fitting: “Sometimes you have to fall first before you can fly.”

“Chandler, your relationship with the Lord has been a guiding light for you. It has strengthened your relationships especially with your father as you both share a strong connection with Him. It has been a boost to your confidence, and it has been a big part of your sobriety. You have prayed for your peers during times of great loss, and you have found great solace in your faith. At the age of 16, your spirituality knows no bounds, and is the force behind the beautiful spirit that so many of us know.”

How can you ask for anything more than that? At the conclusion of the evening, every student came forward and received a plaque, and each name was accompanied by a wish. That alone was enough to break your heart. “Sarah wishes that her family would love her,” or “Josh wishes to be home with his family like it used to be.” That sentiment was repeated many times over, but the most poignant was, “Chandler (another Chandler) wishes he could spend a day … even an hour … with his father.”

I am thrilled to be spending a good part of the next three weeks with our Chandler while he finishes his last two weeks and we drive home together. Who could have predicted this outcome? Who, but the Lord, could have accomplished it?

“Chandler, we’re going to end with a scripture,” the speech concluded. “The scripture is, ‘Be strong and courageous; do not be afraid or terrified because of them for the Lord your God goes with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you.’ Congratulations and good luck when you go home.”

Please seriously consider clicking here and becoming a MemberPartner of the Catch. As you can see we are a community where life can be faced head-on. We know our failures and our struggles because we go through them together. We pray, we cry, and we grow, and those who are contributing regularly are the ones who are making this all possible, and I also believe they are receiving the most in return because they are involved. We are in this together — all for one and one for all. Won’t you join us? “Sometimes you have to fall first before you can fly.”

Advertisements
This entry was posted in Uncategorized and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink.

18 Responses to The treatment center’s Most Improved Resident

  1. This is so encouraging and actually even better than the outcome most of us probably expected! It seems like yesterday he was learning to ride a bike, then I recall a broken leg (or was it arm), then a slow gap of some silence, then all of this the last year. God has been with all of you on this journey. Praying his last couple of weeks will put a protective (but see-through) seal around his soul so he can reach out to others in the future to minister to, whoever they might be. Praying for you all as a family also. It won’t be easy (or boring), whatever is next, but it will turn out good.

    • jwfisch says:

      Chandler is a rare breed. He’s got some real strong stuff inside only the Lord could have put there.

  2. I’m also praying that others will be encouraged by this and won’t be afraid to consider these alternatives as a treatment to help in counseling families.

  3. Robert d'Albenas says:

    I have only posted once or twice before, but feel led to do so today. So here goes: Congratulations Chandler! I know your journey was a difficult one, because I helped start a Christian live-in rehab center here in Nassau, Bahamas some 25 plus years ago. Over these many years I have seen scores of young (and not-so-young) men enter, and despite the prayers, bible studies, psychological counseling, nutritional support etc., most of them do not make it through the one-year program. When they do, and we hold a graduation ceremony for them, you can see and feel their pride (in a good way) and love for both themselves and the Lord when they smile. It is a beautiful thing that God and His limitless love for us can do. May God bless you and your family as you continue this exciting journey we call “life”. Finally a note to John: thank you so much for sharing your personal life with all your Catch family. Through you we have all been encouraged, convicted and blessed by the Lord. Love you all.

  4. Angela says:

    Such a blessing in all directions !

  5. Congratulations to all your family & esp Chandler for the hard work you have all done to come to this outcome–your faith in each other & your faith in our Lord has helped. We all need this community to grow into whom God wishes us all to be. Thank you for allowing me to see your struggles & success

  6. Please pardon my quirky response but I couldn’t help notice that “Most Improved Resident” can be made into the acronym: “MIR”.
    MIR, of course, was the name of the Soviet space station launched in the ’80’s whose name translated from literal Russian means: “Peace”.
    It seems entirely appropriate that the recipient of the “Most Improved Resident” award – or MIR – should also be the recipient of genuine Peace!

    Congratulations Chandler – and the whole Fischer family- for completing this journey and making it to this magnificent milestone.
    May your lives be continually blessed with true Shalom, Peace!!! (John 14:27)

    🙂

  7. Priscilla says:

    Congratulations Chandler. And thank you John and Marti for letting your Catch family travel this journey with you. You all will continue to be in my prayers.

  8. Brian Claricoates says:

    Amen! What a glorious answer to so many prayers. My heart ached with you in the early days and rejoiced in all of the healing and growth that has taken place in your family. God bless you all for sharing it with us.

  9. Kathleen says:

    Yay for Chandler :). My home group was Laguna Canyon Club for meetings :). Young people would meet Thurs. nights at 8PM. Also, good Alanon meetings there as well!

  10. Kevin Krabbenhoft says:

    Wow ! How unexpected. Does anyone else feel like Chandler’s recovery was a gift to them? I can barely tell people what I want due to my own “conflict issues” and yet Chandler was commended for his courage and growth in this area. This testimony was like an ACTS 2 “Suddenly” , even though the waiting period was longer than 10 days. “And suddenly there came a ‘recovery’ from heaven.” Chandler, thank you for encouraging me. You have taken Joshua 1:9 to a whole new level. Not only were you “strong and courageous” but you are showing others that “they too can be strong and courageous” like you. I need to do this stuff in my own life or I am just going through the motions and not really living.

    This is the part that really convicted me “Finally, your true thoughts and feelings started to spill out, and we saw you again confident in your ability to tell us what you needed to. You confronted yourself, your choices and your parents. You told people what you needed”

    AMEN AMEN AMEN !

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s