We’re not done with Father’s Day

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I sent out a personal Father’s Day text yesterday to a number of fathers on my contact list and received a pretty incredible response from most of them. There were a few “awesome”s and a couple “made me day”s. I only wished I had had time to complete my list because I ran out of time and didn’t get to send it to everyone I wanted to. So I’m sending it out publicly this morning and I think I might try and take a stab at why it connected to so many fathers.

Here’s my simple message: “Happy Father’s Day. Treat yourself well today. You’re the best father your kids could ever have. God designed you for this.”

Somehow, it hit the target. I felt like I had passed out Academy Awards to everyone. What was the big deal, do you think?

One thing might be, fathers don’t get much credit. Really, just compare Mother’s Day to Father’s Day. On Mother’s Day, you can’t find a seat at a restaurant if you don’t make a reservation a month and a half in advance. We found a table yesterday, no problem. In fact the place was relatively empty. And then in church, they always have the mothers all stand and receive a rose or a carnation and sometimes some other gift. And what do dads get? A tie. And most of us don’t even wear ties anymore.

“You’re the best father your kids could ever have.” I think that line is the one that hit home the most because it’s true. You are the best father your kids could ever have because you are their father. Nothing could be truer. And yet we beat ourselves up so much. We compare our kids to other kids. We compare our relationship to other father/child relationships and score ourselves low. Everybody else is doing so much better than we are. Guilt prevails.

And yet, by natural right, I am the father, so I need to stop it. No one can contest this. And because God designed me for this, He will be faithful to give me what I need. That is what He does. He provides. I can be and do what no one else can do because I am the father. So celebrate. And if you missed it yesterday, celebrate today. We’re not having our official Father’s Day until Friday because that’s the first time we could all get together. Step aside, Hallmark. This one is ours.

“Happy Father’s Day. Treat yourself well today. You’re the best father your kids could ever have. God designed you for this.”

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8 Responses to We’re not done with Father’s Day

  1. Mark Seguin says:

    Great message Pastor John, and although, I completely agree w/ all that you wrote. You asked: :I felt like I had passed out Academy Awards to everyone. What was the big deal, do you think?”

    My answer from being in Amway and reading a few books becauz of it (It’s a people Biz, so you better learn fast how to get-a-long well, show ’em Christ luv and motivate them in your Biz – As once was a suggestion given to me by a man I learned to luv & highly respect in the Amway Biz, plus his lifestyle is in the upper 1% of USA)

    Is u expressed belief in them and in your fast-paced society that isn’t done often enough…Especially to men! ❤ 🙂

  2. Sandie says:

    Your devotionals – yesterday and today – brought to mind another father we don’t really know much about…Joseph. Michael Card expressed it so eloquently in “Joseph’s Song.” ” How could it be?” Talk about being afraid of falling short…raising The Son of God…”How could it be?” The few things we do know about Joseph…he trusted and believed God…because of that he had integrity. Was he perfect? Heck no…along with Mary he managed to misplace a 12 year-old boy for several days! But he also managed to keep Mary and Jesus safe because he trusted God. So that’s the long and short of it Dads…AND Moms…trust God and live with integrity! What better legacy to give your kids!

  3. TimC says:

    Thankfully, no one has given me a tie in many years. 🙂

  4. Grumpy says:

    I have been sitting staring at a blank screen, trying to write my own Father’s Day Blog. Yeah a day late and a dollar short. Well when I have all but given up, I just start reading and come across this post. Life as a father didn’t turn out the way I had hoped. I believe you when you say “Happy Father’s Day. Treat yourself well today. You’re the best father your kids could ever have. God designed you for this.” The unfortunate thing is many, including the courts have seen fit to tell me just the opposite. Five years ago my two youngest were stripped from my wife and I and the courts have since declared that I am no longer their father. How can man destroy what God has built. I struggle daily against a main stream of Christianity, and the world that would declare me unfit. I am growing weary of platitudes that range from the where there is smoke there is fire sort that assume guilt, to the God must have a plan we just don’t know what it is. I struggle day to day, but I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that he is able to keep me, until that day.

    • Mark Seguin says:

      Dear Grumpy let me say, first I too imagine I’d be more than a bit mad if /I ever had Children and their removed from me and got also ‘say’ I just loved how you ended your post w/ that verse from, I believe a Fanny Crosby song and out of the New testament too: “..but I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that he is able to keep me, until that day.” Amen my dear brother-in-the Lord Amen!!!

      • Grumpy says:

        For the which cause I also suffer these things: nevertheless I am not ashamed: for I know whom I have believed, and am persuaded that he is able to keep that which I have committed unto him against that day. 2 Timothy 1:12

        It is also a song, but a song taken directly from scripture. The cause of Timothy’s suffering may have been slightly different, but the solution for it is the same. I am oft reminded of Peter’s words “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life.” when faced with this pain that makes me want to jump ship and run.

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