I sent out a personal Father’s Day text yesterday to a number of fathers on my contact list and received a pretty incredible response from most of them. There were a few “awesome”s and a couple “made me day”s. I only wished I had had time to complete my list because I ran out of time and didn’t get to send it to everyone I wanted to. So I’m sending it out publicly this morning and I think I might try and take a stab at why it connected to so many fathers.
Here’s my simple message: “Happy Father’s Day. Treat yourself well today. You’re the best father your kids could ever have. God designed you for this.”
Somehow, it hit the target. I felt like I had passed out Academy Awards to everyone. What was the big deal, do you think?
One thing might be, fathers don’t get much credit. Really, just compare Mother’s Day to Father’s Day. On Mother’s Day, you can’t find a seat at a restaurant if you don’t make a reservation a month and a half in advance. We found a table yesterday, no problem. In fact the place was relatively empty. And then in church, they always have the mothers all stand and receive a rose or a carnation and sometimes some other gift. And what do dads get? A tie. And most of us don’t even wear ties anymore.
“You’re the best father your kids could ever have.” I think that line is the one that hit home the most because it’s true. You are the best father your kids could ever have because you are their father. Nothing could be truer. And yet we beat ourselves up so much. We compare our kids to other kids. We compare our relationship to other father/child relationships and score ourselves low. Everybody else is doing so much better than we are. Guilt prevails.
And yet, by natural right, I am the father, so I need to stop it. No one can contest this. And because God designed me for this, He will be faithful to give me what I need. That is what He does. He provides. I can be and do what no one else can do because I am the father. So celebrate. And if you missed it yesterday, celebrate today. We’re not having our official Father’s Day until Friday because that’s the first time we could all get together. Step aside, Hallmark. This one is ours.
“Happy Father’s Day. Treat yourself well today. You’re the best father your kids could ever have. God designed you for this.”