Here is another thing you do. You cover the Lord’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because He pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. You cry out, “Why doesn’t the Lord accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. but you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows.
Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are His. And what does He want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. Malachi 2:13-15
God cares about the quality of our relationships. He cares as much about our marriages as He does about our worship. You can’t have treacherous relationships and claim to worship God. It’s all interconnected. We can’t get on with Him if we aren’t getting on with our wives and husbands.
And if there are problems (and who is exempt from that?), the solution is to return to what you once had. You can’t create what’s not there, but you can recover what is. To fix our relationships we don’t have to change. We don’t have to become something we’re not; we rediscover who we are.
Who is the wife of your youth? She is the woman you fell in love with — the one you couldn’t live without, the one that you had to be near all the time, the one that made you like yourself when you were around her, the one God made you one with. That one. All you need to love her is already there. Go back and recover it. Return to your first love. It’s as strong as it ever was. We think we change when we get older. We lose what we had. Life changes. We lose our attractiveness. Love wanes. None of this is true. God is more romantic that Cupid. He put love there in the first place.
Last night Marti and I celebrated the engagement of a 37-year old relationship. In one weekend they have uncovered the wife/husband of their youth. Jim proposed to Suzanne all over again. With a full moon dancing on the water, he knelt in the sand and proposed to the wife of his youth. And thankfully, she said “Yes.”
Tonight, there will be a wedding.