This week I’ve been trying to capture for everyone the unique experience Marti and I had this last weekend meeting over four days with a very daring couple who flew to southern California for the purpose of healing their relationship through talking with us and taking directives from my wife who is very good at this kind of thing. It may sound like we do this every weekend (we don’t) but after this weekend’s success, I’m not so sure as to whether we might want to consider it.
Careful, though, Marti can have you doing some pretty bizarre things, like walking out your back door, coming around and knocking on the front door to be let in a different man. Or she might have you throwing your dirty baggage out into the street, as long as you time your throw to put it right in front of a passing car. You also will have to get some help carrying it out there because it’s so heavy; you’ve been working on it for so many years.
And if you didn’t propose right the first time, better do it again, and do it right this time. Just no sex, because you’re only engaged. That will have to wait for the wedding, which is tomorrow.
Jim and Suzanne had been to six different marriage counselors. Six different attempts and no significant change. If you ask Jim about what made this different, he will answer you right away — it was the relationship. We were not therapists and clients; we were friends in league with the Lord. Which tells me we can all do this in some way for each other. As friends, we can help each other face some of our difficulties, barriers, and bad habits. We can help each other stay true to our commitments and keep our promises.
“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ,” writes Paul in Ephesians 5:21. And part of what that means is to be vulnerable to one another.
I watched love being maximized last weekend. I saw barriers come down. I witnessed transformation in process. I saw hope reborn. I saw what can happen when we are willing to be vulnerable to each other.